I would have to disagree. The problem with the typical school yard bullying is with the parents (and yes I am a parent). It the attitude that "boys will be boys" that allows it to happen and yes it is a big deal. A child is at a time of his life when he (or she) is still building upon a foundation that will be relied upon for the rest of their life. To be bullied can lead to social issues depending on the degree of bullying and how tolerant (both mentally and physically) the individual is. Then the is the person doing the bullying. The big issue there is "why". What is the reason behind it. That reason can very well be the difference between them going to jail for assault or murder or simply going out of it but maintaining a smug arrogance or cockiness.
Now this is cases where the public eye is upon them (more or less). With computers you tend to remove yourself from the real world (consciously or subconsciously) and so you remove yourself from the real world laws that go with it. A person who is the bullyer is more likely to go further than they normally would and as a result the reason that would otherwise have resulted in them growing out of it instead goes out the window. Depending on their computer know how or their willingness to learn they can do bad things, really bad things. As the bullyee don't think you are safe just because your behind a computer. There are ways to track you down despite using an online email set up with fake info and using a screen name. You will leave an electronic footprint that can be followed. Such goes both ways as someone who received too much abuse from someone else online could track that person down with the right know how and again do really bad things to them. All the while not thinking their really doing something really bad because it is only being done on the internet. Since there is no face to the bank account or whatever, then there is a level of desensitization that would otherwise be there.
Kinda like war. Used to be that you had to get up close and personal. You had to look the person you were about to kill in the eye and watch the expression on their face as they realized their fate. Now with all the technology it is more like playing a video game. While this doesn't actually take any of the danger of you being killed away, it does psychologically remove the fear of being killed by giving a false sense of security. You feel your in an untouchable position despite the opposite being true.
So while this all seems like fun and games to a select few, it isn't to the victims of it. Do you know who they are or what they are really capable of? Sounds like a game of Russian roulette to me. It may very well be the cause to an effect that you are not ready for. In which case you have nobody to blame except yourselves. I've seen forums get hacked in the past. You can only hope that is all that will happen.
Sorry to bring the current conversation offtopic, but i just read this and wanted to reply.
I am a student, a "child" by law if you wish to see it in a technical sense.
You are over-reacting.
I have had my share of flaming on internet forums, its just written words. If i do not wish to read them, i am not forced to (as oppose to listening to somebody flame you), if i no longer wish to be subject to such flaming, i leave as I please. Easy as that.
For those people being flamed, quit doing whatever you are doing to invoke the flames. I have learned over the years that saying stupid things without much thought will 99% of the time get you a harsh response. This is self-invoked "cyber bullying", that can easily be prevented if you just use your brain before posting.
Anyone that hurts themselves over insults over the computer is already very emotionally damaged, and probably would have hurt themselves for non-computer related reasons too, depending on what came first. I don't mean to sound like an a-hole to anyone that has, but your self esteem is waaaaay low if you actually take these insults seriously.
I would not confuse insults with criticism here though, some of the crackpot members here really should take the advice they are given, instead of completely ignoring it, as i have noticed while i read over the forums.
Tracking people down? I'm no an expert with computers, but i challenge you to find me. I'm guessing it is possible, but i'm not convinced it is so easy anyone could do it (including children), if you would prove me wrong though, then i have just learned something new.
RobDegraves
16th May 2009 - 05:36 AM
Just to throw my two cents in if I may...
I believe in being as polite as I can while still calling a spade a spade. Being Canadian, I have the typical inclination towards polite and well ordered discussion. I prefer to stay away from name calling or abuse, and I think this promotes better debates.
However...
1. I can understand the frustration of having to deal with people who will not accept any point but their own. I can see how constantly dealing with the lunatic fringe can make someone a tad grumpy.
2. Being polite does not mean that I tolerate BS.
3. For politeness to work, it has to be mutual. Some people simply cannot be reasoned with, so sometimes stronger methods are needed.
I have an old motto... "When reason fails, brute force prevails".
Lastly, commenting on Micheal J's post, I have often seen people claim that they will track me down. This is something I actively encourage... but I think I am rather non standard in this attitude and I don't recommend it for most.