Well, it took until Tuesday to get the Authorization from the insurance company to the doctors because of the PD holiday on Monday.
So she had her first CPT-11/Avastin treatment today.
It took almost 5 hours, but was otherwise, no big deal.
The infusion center we went to had semi-private areas for each patient, Each had a big comfortable recliner along with guest chairs and a TVs. They also had a communal kitchen with drinks, coffee, snacks. and a communal lounge with more comfortable sofas, books, magazines, games, a huge half finished jig-saw puzzle to work on etc, etc.
There were maybe 30 or so patients treated over the 5 hours that my wife was there (most for much shorter times).
She got an IV started and then got some prep meds to control her reactions and possible brain swelling.
Then over two periods, an hour and a half each, with a short flush of the line after each med, she got the two chemos.
They use a portable infusion pump, so she could get up and walk around, go to the bathroom, talk to other patients, etc.
She spent most of the time napping however.
Still, except for one bout of diarrhea, she was in no discomfort.
She's napping now (they expect that this will make her lethargic for a day or so) but in no pain.
Next treatment in 2 weeks.
Arthur
Well she's had two treatments and her schedule called for another tomorrow, but that is unlikely to happen.
She never recovered her energy after a treatment.
When we took her for her second treatment, she walked in, but we had to take her home in a wheelchair.
Since her second treatment she has been bed ridden.
She can no longer even get up without assistance.
This of course has made even daily hygene issues problematical.
Her food intake has dropped to next to nothing and she is sleeping about 20 hours out of every day.
I finally threw in the towel on Monday and contacted a local Hospice center for planning for end of life care.
The nurse comes by in a few hours.
The disease has not significantly affected her higher reasoning abilities though (i.e. she is quite aware of her surroundings, the people in it, changes in her treatments etc ) and since my wife is a nurse, she is quite aware of what it means when the nurse from Hospice shows up.
A very sad day indeed.
Arthur
"THEY"
18th March 2008 - 04:36 PM
Arthur,
I am extremely saddened by this news.
My prayers are with you all.
Capracus
18th March 2008 - 05:33 PM
QUOTE (adoucette+Mar 18 2008, 03:50 PM)
Well she's had two treatments and her schedule called for another tomorrow, but that is unlikely to happen.
She never recovered her energy after a treatment.
When we took her for her second treatment, she walked in, but we had to take her home in a wheelchair.
Since her second treatment she has been bed ridden.
She can no longer even get up without assistance.
This of course has made even daily hygene issues problematical.
Her food intake has dropped to next to nothing and she is sleeping about 20 hours out of every day.
I finally threw in the towel on Monday and contacted a local Hospice center for planning for end of life care.
The nurse comes by in a few hours.
The disease has not significantly affected her higher reasoning abilities though (i.e. she is quite aware of her surroundings, the people in it, changes in her treatments etc ) and since my wife is a nurse, she is quite aware of what it means when the nurse from Hospice shows up.
A very sad day indeed.
Arthur
A lot of what you describe parallels the experience we had with my brother. The hours of IV chemo in the oncology ward and the eventual point in time when he could no longer tolerate the visits or the treatments.
We always knew the whole objective of his treatment was palliative, but we always behaved as if every small victory mattered.
When we got to the point of hospice, we maintained that it was just until he regains enough strength for further chemo. Eventually though, as you have encountered, you are confronted with realization that it's not going to get better. We never displayed that attitude in my brother's presence, but I'm sure he was aware that he was on the way out.
A couple of fortunate aspects of his condition was that his cancer had left him completely blind and he was unable to visualize his physical deterioration. Also, in his last two weeks, his mental condition became altered in a way that he was in a perpetual dreamlike state that allowed him to experience a noticeably pleasant reality.
Your wife's fortunate to have such a dedicated husband, but then again I'm sure she is deserving of nothing less.
Trippy
18th March 2008 - 06:13 PM
QUOTE (adoucette+Mar 19 2008, 04:50 AM)
Well she's had two treatments and her schedule called for another tomorrow, but that is unlikely to happen.
She never recovered her energy after a treatment.
When we took her for her second treatment, she walked in, but we had to take her home in a wheelchair.
Since her second treatment she has been bed ridden.
She can no longer even get up without assistance.
This of course has made even daily hygene issues problematical.
Her food intake has dropped to next to nothing and she is sleeping about 20 hours out of every day.
I finally threw in the towel on Monday and contacted a local Hospice center for planning for end of life care.
The nurse comes by in a few hours.
The disease has not significantly affected her higher reasoning abilities though (i.e. she is quite aware of her surroundings, the people in it, changes in her treatments etc ) and since my wife is a nurse, she is quite aware of what it means when the nurse from Hospice shows up.
A very sad day indeed.
Arthur
Dude, i'm so sorry to here this.
adoucette
27th March 2008 - 03:58 AM
Thanks to all who have sent PMs and other posts of support.
It is appreciated.
I always convey them to my wife and it still brings a smile.
We are working with the Hospice to allow us to keep her at home.
Doing it as home care though is not without issues.
We've moved in a hospital bed, portable commode, wheelchair etc
It’s an improvement over the previous arrangement, but its still a challenge to provide good care for someone who essentially can barely physically cooperate with you.
It’s a day to day thing now as her physical condition continues to deteriorate.
I've got the nurse coming by every third day and a nursing assistant every other day.
This morning we gave her an enema and then a laxitive, all to no result though.
Once we get her bowels to move we are going to insert a catheter, as getting her to the commode has become very difficult for my daughter and I to accomplish without risk for her (she only urinates once a day now)
Her physical condition has deteriorated to the extent that she is no longer eating much of anything solid and we are switching to all liquid medications because she can't quite manage the swallowing of pills reliably.
Though she still knows who we all are and can briefly communicate with us, most of the time is now spent on the edge of sleep with her eyes almost closed.
Luckily she's in no pain though and still gets comfort from the touch of her family.
Arthur
adoucette
8th April 2008 - 11:21 PM
Well we have had Hospice care at home for two weeks and over that time my wife's condition has continued to deteriorate.
Its been a real struggle and I will just say, the goal of keeping her comfortable, has been a very difficult goal to meet.
Family and friends have come by at a fairly steady stream and thankfully have provided for all our basic needs.
Still, after weeks of fighting, we have decided as a family that what we are doing is more for us then for her and we agreed today to quit the steroid medication and the needle sticks/insulin injections and just administer pain medication if/as necessary.
She now appears to be resting comfortably, for the most part, and all we are providing is water and a clean bed.
I spent much of the day checking out different funeral homes and visiting cemetaries with my oldest daughter.
Tomorrow we will be picking out a headstone and agreeing on the inscription.
Sad days indeed.
Arthur
Trippy
9th April 2008 - 12:24 AM
QUOTE (adoucette+Apr 9 2008, 11:21 AM)
Well we have had Hospice care at home for two weeks and over that time my wife's condition has continued to deteriorate.
Its been a real struggle and I will just say, the goal of keeping her comfortable, has been a very difficult goal to meet.
Family and friends have come by at a fairly steady stream and thankfully have provided for all our basic needs.
Still, after weeks of fighting, we have decided as a family that what we are doing is more for us then for her and we agreed today to quit the steroid medication and the needle sticks/insulin injections and just administer pain medication if/as necessary.
She now appears to be resting comfortably, for the most part, and all we are providing is water and a clean bed.
I spent much of the day checking out different funeral homes and visiting cemetaries with my oldest daughter.
Tomorrow we will be picking out a headstone and agreeing on the inscription.
Sad days indeed.
Arthur
man, i'm so sorry, you have my, and my family's deepest sympathies.
TheDoc
9th April 2008 - 12:38 AM
QUOTE (adoucette+Apr 8 2008, 11:21 PM)
Well we have had Hospice care at home for two weeks and over that time my wife's condition has continued to deteriorate.
Its been a real struggle and I will just say, the goal of keeping her comfortable, has been a very difficult goal to meet.
Family and friends have come by at a fairly steady stream and thankfully have provided for all our basic needs.
Still, after weeks of fighting, we have decided as a family that what we are doing is more for us then for her and we agreed today to quit the steroid medication and the needle sticks/insulin injections and just administer pain medication if/as necessary.
She now appears to be resting comfortably, for the most part, and all we are providing is water and a clean bed.
I spent much of the day checking out different funeral homes and visiting cemetaries with my oldest daughter.
Tomorrow we will be picking out a headstone and agreeing on the inscription.
Sad days indeed.
Arthur
I'm at a loss for words. My deepest sympathies, Arthur.
Capracus
9th April 2008 - 04:56 AM
It doesn't make the loss of your wife any easier, but at least this prolonged nightmare that has incrementally stolen her life is finally coming to an end.
Be strong for your family and accept their comfort. Good luck.
adoucette
9th April 2008 - 11:06 AM
Pamela earned her Angel Wings this morning.
She passed peacefully in her sleep in the home she loved with her family around her.
Thank you all for your prayers.
Arthur
El_Machinae
9th April 2008 - 12:27 PM
I'm so sorry.
Trippy
9th April 2008 - 06:20 PM
Man, I'm so sorry.
TheDoc
9th April 2008 - 07:15 PM
QUOTE (adoucette+Apr 9 2008, 11:06 AM)
Pamela earned her Angel Wings this morning.
She passed peacefully in her sleep in the home she loved with her family around her.
Thank you all for your prayers.
Arthur
I suppose it's a small comfort that she's no longer in any pain.
I'm sorry, Arthur.
"THEY"
9th April 2008 - 07:43 PM
Arthur, I am very sorry to hear about your loss. My prayers are with you and your family in your time of pain and healing.
tikay
9th April 2008 - 09:15 PM
Hello Arthur...This is the first I have seen of this post, and I want to add my condolences to the rest. I love you and I hope you and your family will get through this time without too much grief. I know it was not a shock but that does not lessen the reality of your wifes passing, and I feel for you, and for your darling girls. Give them my love if you will.
Tracey
TaddPeake
12th April 2008 - 01:46 AM
I'm so sorry for your great loss. Our prayers are with you and your family.
deadbeat
13th April 2008 - 07:49 PM
I know a little something of loss, but cannot imagine the depth of your sorrow, I only wish there were something any of us could do to ease your pain.
I will continue to have you in my prayers, you continue to have my undying respect. Many of us who know you, even so insubstantially as through this simple medium know of your great and incredible patience and persistence, and basic good and kind nature.
My personal recommendation. Give yourself permission to lose it for a little bit. If anyone ever deserved to lean on others and unshoulder that burden for a bit, this is the situation that would seem to call for it. Reach out if you need. Submitting to grief and truly mourning for a while honors the loss you and the world have sustained. I had trouble with that, but of course you probably will do far better than I in this case too.
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