The tension seems to increase before his first attempt, then laying off for a bit, until July, where it gradually worsens to the point of ticking. Definitely issues with women, socially in general. Lots of envy, and issues with dominance regarding significant people in his life. This guy seems like he did a very good job at hiding his mental malfunction for a long time, as he hints towards nobody knowing what he is up to. Almost bragging i'm guessing?
Any thoughts, or opinions as to what you think his motives were? What caused him to tick?
The thing that jumps out at me the most is his disconnect from himself...
When he talks about the layoffs at his job, he doesn't mention anything about his position or work at the company, only that he 'survived', as if it's by pure luck. When he talks about himself in the context of women, he matter-of-factly lists several positive attributes he thinks he has without ever bothering to take credit for them. When he discusses his success with women, it's all because "women don't like him," and nothing to do with "I don't know what I'm doing wrong" or anything that would imply some responsibility on his part.
When I was a teen, I used to see a psychiatrist who lived a few blocks from my parent's home. As I got older, I stopped seeing him, but was so familiar with him (and lived in such proximity to him) that we became casual friends. One thing we often discussed was criminal psychology, specifically the mindset of mass-murderers and serial killers. He told me that such people often have this sort of disconnect, viewing themselves as just another person, instead of the much more intimate "me" that most of us view ourselves as.
Another trait he told me that such people tend to share is a complete lack of confidence in themselves or others, and right as I was thinking that, I came across this section:
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I need to expect nothing from me or other people. All through the years I thought we had the ability to change ourselves - I guess that is incorrect. Looking at The List makes me realize how TOTALLY ALONE, a deeper word is ISOLATED, I am from all else.
I no longer have any expectations of myself. I have no options because I cannot work toward and achieve even the smallest goals.
Immediately following that is the most telling passage with regards to that disconnect...
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| QUOTE |
I need to expect nothing from me or other people. All through the years I thought we had the ability to change ourselves - I guess that is incorrect. Looking at The List makes me realize how TOTALLY ALONE, a deeper word is ISOLATED, I am from all else.
I no longer have any expectations of myself. I have no options because I cannot work toward and achieve even the smallest goals. |
Immediately following that is the most telling passage with regards to that disconnect...
That is, ABOVE ALL, what bothers me the most. Not to be able to work towards what I want in my life. I believe I am deserve that. I read recently it is called "self efficacy", but who knows. Is that more psychobable?
He sits there psychoanalyzing himself as if he were someone else, and all the while, concludes that "...[he] is deserve[d] that."
Not that he has earned anything, not even that he deserves it after all he's been through and done, but simply that 'he is deserved that', as if it is some basic right everyone has, and he is no different.
uaafanblog
6th August 2009 - 06:52 PM
I initially had many of the same thoughts that I think we all share about this particular nutbag. But after some reflection and seeing his youtube video things I've come to think that this guys problem was that he expected at 48 to find someone mid-thirties or younger that met his physical expectations.
What I think is that he was just a socially inept jerk that thought he ought to be nailing under 35 sexy women. Speaking as a 48 year old single man who is engaging, charming and even delightful in a social setting that's an over expectation. When I was 39 I got involved with exactly the sort of woman he was looking for ... good looking, fun etc. But we never really meshed in our cultural tastes because of the decade of difference in our ages ... it lasted 4 years and I was the one that ended it. So a boob like him with no skills would have had no chance at such a "pull".
I think he was just delusional at this point. There are PLENTY of women that would have been interested in this guy ... just not the ones he with whom he imagined himself. He lashed out at these unattainable women but his whole life seems to have been a slap in the face to any woman that didn't meet his shallow standards for looks.
I'm sure that the self-pity he showed on those videos and in his writing came through in his day to day existence and was the prime reason he couldn't find someone.
Also ... his family really needs to take this as an opportunity for some self-reflection in the hope of one day becoming decent human beings; because they all sound like assholes.
MjolnirPants
7th August 2009 - 06:04 PM
QUOTE (uaafanblog+Aug 6 2009, 01:52 PM)
I initially had many of the same thoughts that I think we all share about this particular nutbag. But after some reflection and seeing his youtube video things I've come to think that this guys problem was that he expected at 48 to find someone mid-thirties or younger that met his physical expectations.
Apparently, we're both right on the money.
http://www.cnn.com/2009/CRIME/08/07/gym.sh...logy/index.htmlQUOTE
(CNN) -- George Sodini, the man who killed three women and wounded nine others before killing himself Tuesday at a Pennsylvania fitness center, showed in his writings typical characteristics of a mass murderer, experts say.
George Sodini failed at every relationship but couldn't blame himself, experts say. "What distinguishes the mass murderer who takes his own life afterwards from the person who just commits suicide is the externalization of blame," said James Alan Fox, a Northeastern University professor and author of six books on mass murder.
...
"He had an issue with women who were not giving him the time of day -- all these young, beautiful, attractive, healthy, fit women at the health club," Fox said. "And so he specifically chose the health club, not just some random spot, to go after the people he blamed."
Confused2
7th August 2009 - 10:38 PM
QUOTE (uaafanblog+)
Also ... his family really needs to take this as an opportunity for some self-reflection in the hope of one day becoming decent human beings; because they all sound like assholes.
Girl with Half Her Brain Missing Lives Normal Life: Researchers Amazed
http://www.lifesitenews.com/ldn/2009/jul/09072902.htmlQUOTE
"Despite lacking one hemisphere, the girl has normal psychological function and is perfectly capable of living a normal and fulfilling life. She is witty, charming and intelligent."
I think most of us would guess that her parents (and friends) are also witty, charming and intelligent.
I have a friend who isn't so lucky.
-C2.
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